March 2010
The Blame Game
Submitted by kurt.stewart on Fri, 03/12/2010 - 00:05
“Come on down Peter, come on down Mary, come on down John, come on down everyone. You are about to begin the blame game. Step up to your little stand and on the count of three yell out all the names of the people and situations in life you would like to blame for not being rich, successful or happy. Ready the countdown begins, 3……2………..1 Go!”
Names are being yelled out left right and centre, screaming voices are heard, anger in building. Finally the bell sounds to end the blame game.
“Okay we have a winner. The person who yelled the most names, who was the angriest, who was the most excited about naming names, who wanted to blame everyone is contestant number 4. Come on down winner of the blame game. You are officially the angriest most blaming person here today. You are the greatest victim here. So tell us contestant number four, what kind of a life do you have?” Read more »
On being overly significant
Submitted by kurt.stewart on Mon, 03/08/2010 - 18:41
Sometimes we can’t help it – we get caught up in our lives, wound up about issues, work, relationships and a thousand little things that build up throughout the day. And we can get weighed down by it all. Maybe we take ourselves a little too seriously sometimes too.
We talk about this in one of our coaching tools called “Lightness v. Significance”. We look at what happens when we become “significant”- and some ways to shift our perspective to a lighter, more positive one.
What is Significance? Here is a Buddhist tale that illustrates what happens when we become overly significant.
A young monk was traveling with an older monk. Along the way, they came to a stream where a beautiful woman was standing, afraid to cross. Without hesitating, the old monk picked her up, carried her over the water and placed her down safely on the other side. The young monk was shocked but said nothing. They walked on until they reached their destination. Finally, the young monk, who was so disturbed by what he had seen, could hold back no longer.
“Why,” he asked angrily, “ did you carry that young woman across the stream. We monks have rules – it is forbidden to touch women!” Read more »
